Reflection post

I decided to do my reflection blog on the article, "Should You Stay Together for the Kids?" The author suggests that divorce does harm children contrary to the belief that a good divorce is better than a bad marriage. I agree that, not only is divorce hard on the adults because usually there is no such thing as a good divorce, it is far worse on the children because they don't know what to expect and they have no control over the situation. I have experienced a few of my close friends and family members who have gone through divorces in the last few years. As soon as the one of the parents move out, the kids start having trouble in school or start acting out in some way. I, at age 33, am now a child of divorce and I can tell you it still isn't easy to be caught in the middle when you are an adult, but at least I have the option to leave or not answer my phone if possible. I am also in a relationship with someone who has been divorced and has children. I think that saving a marriage should be a consideration, especially if there are children involved. I also think that children need to have good examples of healthy relationships so if there is constant fighting, it is going to scar them just as much as if their parents are divorced. These days, it is more common to meet friends whose parents are divorced more than married, so kids whose parents are married might feel left out. I know there are plenty of single parents out there that have been successful in taking care of their children or making a divorce situation work for their children without much interruption. My brother gained custody of his children after his divorce. He, not only has had to be both Mom and Dad, but also works 12 hrs a day and doesn't get any financial support from his ex-wife. He has done the best he can and luckily, he has a very supportive family who have helped him along the way. The kids are adjusting, but I feel like they will be scarred for a while and may have issues with their future relationships.